“Ugh, I hate her. She’s so skinny and perfect and look at that long luscious hair. No wonder everyone loves her.”
“Of course SHE got the promotion. She’s such a b*$*& and will do anything to get what she wants. I have more class than that. I’m going to work for what I get.”
Ladies, how many of us have muttered that phrase or some version of it at some point in our lives? My guess…all of us.
Isn’t it so insane how society has set up the perfect platform in looking at one another as competition? It’s in every ounce of media we consume. Look at magazines, your favorite television show, movies, etc. If there is a lead or supporting female character, there is always an enemy female character at the ready to take the plot and put it all in a bundle. Even in reality our magazines (which can be argued as reality) show women in feuds from all walks of life. Even women that work so hard to empower women and show how strong we are, like Taylor Swift and Demi Lovato, still somehow find a feud with one another through their own pettiness and jealousy. Why do we do this?
I don’t really have an answer for this. I find myself on a daily basis comparing myself to the women I’m surrounded by. I find myself feeling jealous or envious of what another woman has that I don’t have. And you know what those moments do to me? I feel awful. I look at myself in a light that is so far from the truth it’s saddening.
Yet, when I see the women I’m surrounded by make extreme strides in their lives, I feel a sense of accomplishment, too. When my female friends confide in me and share their successes, instead of feeling down on myself for not accomplishing something, too, I feel so much pride I want to burst.
My friends and I empower each other. We cheer each other on constantly. Whether we are struggling with our jobs, celebrating a promotion, taking steps in personal relationships, or going through a huge life change, we’re there for each other, supporting one another, and sharing how proud we are of one another. It’s special.
So why don’t we always do this with our friends or strangers? My goal is to empower women in every aspect I can. We are such a special group of humans. We are capable of so much and majority of the time we are disrespected.
If this is the first time you’ve really started questioning why you get jealous, envious, or judgmental towards other women, then I encourage you to challenge yourself even more. Whenever a thought like one at the beginning of this post goes through your head, think about someone saying those things about you. THEN remind yourself that empowering other women also empowers you. The more strong women we have in this world, the better. There’s power in numbers.
How do you empower women? Here’s a pic of me and some of my fierce female friends, who are equally intelligent and beautiful.