When I was a little girl I would run to my parents room late at night crying because I was afraid to grow up. During the day I would play high school with my imaginary friends, or go to my room and talk to my imaginary college roommate. I would constantly play like I was an adult, but I secretly knew that was something I never really wanted, but unfortunately for me, growing up is inevitable.
Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of amazing things about growing up. Finding your independence, driving, drinking wine, staying up as late as you want, spending countless hours with friends, understanding the importance of your parents, etc. The list could go on…forever. I understand the perks of being older and growing up, but I also see a lot of downsides to it as well.
- Paying bills.
- Buying groceries.
- Being alone, a lot.
- Moving away from friends.
- Not being a college kid anymore.
- Getting sick.
- Buying house things.
- Not having as much family time.
I think a lot of these are self explanatory. Having to pay bills, buy food, cook said food, eating said food alone, and cleaning up after cooking and eating said food. You’ve also graduated college, so you’re really unsure what to do with your life and your friends keep moving away because of amazing job opportunities. You have to buy a bunch of stuff for your first place alone, since you’ve been mooching off of roommates for the past four years. Then you get sick and you don’t have mom and dad to take care of you anymore.
Doesn’t sound all that glorious, huh? Well, don’t worry. You’ll definitely find ways to be happy and passionate about this new adult life. I’m in a transition stage right now where I feel really lost and unsure of decisions I’ve made. I am constantly questioning myself and the life I am building. Am I living in the right city? Did I take the right first job? Will I have friends I can depend on? What am I making for dinner? How do you cook? Why am I talking to him? etc.
College doesn’t teach you how to transition after your graduation. I was one of the most involved students at UW-Eau Claire. Now I have an abundance of free time and don’t know what to do with it. But I’m not completely worried. I know I’ll figure it out and find the right path. If you’re a recent graduate going through this same, awkward transition as I am, let me know. If you’re trying to prepare for graduation and want to talk through steps to prepare for the difference, reach out to me.
Life changes everyone. If you have anxiety like me, that’s not ideal, but you learn to adapt quickly. Take the time to enjoy simple moments. Spend time with your family to let them know how much you love them and everything they ever did to spoil you. Be honest with yourself and don’t be afraid to share how you feel – it’s always valid.
Happy 2016, y’all! This year is going to be amazing! As much as I’m dreading growing up, I am so excited for this next chapter in my life.
your recent graduate,